posted on August 30, 2013 18:00 by
I had a life coaching session last week with a thirty something singleton desperate to stop her biological clock ticking, who was telling me she had slept with her best friend’s husband after an impulsive moment in a hotel.
She had bumped into him in a hotel bar on a wet windy Monday lunchtime after lunching clients and already tipsy with a hidden crush for years on her friend’s husband, she impulsively suggested getting a room and some pink champagne. The guy bit her hand off and her frock before aggressively having sex with her without much feeling or chat afterwards when he dressed and left her after an emergency call from his wife, her friend.
She asked me if she should tell her best friend and risk losing her forever, branded a marriage wrecker or talk to the husband and make a pact to erase all memory of what happened then carry on as normal.
It is tricky to imagine being able to find the courage to do the right thing, when the wrong thing would give you a more desired result but the truth is universal and what goes around comes around, so I just gave her some common sense advice regarding infidelity.
Confess, apologise and accept the consequences.
Acting on an impulse when you are drunk, means you are not thinking and likely making a mistake. Acting on an impulse when you are sober and thinking, means you will never make a mistake. Simple!